Fathers, you have to tell your daughter she is beautiful. Constantly, consistantly. No one ever will if you do not.
The makeup aisle will tell her that she needs to look like Kim Kardashian, that her nose is too big, that she HAS to have freckles.
The clothing aisle will tell her she is unflattering, the mirror will scream that she is ugly because she can’t even fit into a simple piece of clothing. No one has that belly bulge in this dress, what’s wrong with you?
The TV will tell her that she has to put on make up to be pretty so that she can be loved. TV will tell her that love is dependent on beauty, because sex is.
Magazines will tell her she isn’t doing her beauty right. Be more natural, but also use this natural glow makeup, because you want to impress everyone don’t you?
Well she doesn’t believe those silly things! Of course she knows she is valuable because of her mind and not her body.
She knows that people say that attitude and work ethic are what make a person, but some how cannot seem to find a single person who favors her because she isn’t beautiful.
She knows she looks different than what people want.
She thinks that she knows that she could never be loved because her tummy sticks out and her thighs brush together.
She knows no one has called her beautiful, and she feels alone as the only ugly and undesirable person left in this great big world.
But surely this isn’t all my job! Her husband and boyfriend will tell her she’s beautiful too!
If she doesn’t know she’s beautiful, her first boyfriend is going to be a person who only sees her for her skin. It is going to be a man that touches her and who tries to play mind games. One who brags that they have a trophy; a hot girl who’s all over him. Isn’t he great? He will tell her that she looks so great, and she will believe that her mind never mattered.
If she does not know herself, if you do not take care of her, the first person to call her beautiful could be the person to hurt her most: then her beauty is only soul shattering pain. The first person to call her beautiful is the first person to touch her in ways she doesn’t want when she is not ready.
Father, your daughter needs you. She needs your approval. She must know that she is beautiful, and it is your job to make sure she knows that.
Otherwise you will lose her. To sex, to a weasel of a man, or to sickness in an attempt to look different than she does.
You will lose her.
Tell her she is beautiful.
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